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Too Posh to Push?: Breaking the silence on vanity surrogacy

Many of those pursuing surrogacy choose that path due to medical issues, including infertility, or because of their sexual orientation.

The public’s perception about women and surrogacy is that women choose to have a surrogate because they don’t want to ruin their figure, which diminishes and marginalizes not only these women, but the fact that infertility is a disease.

However, what if being pregnant could compromise their career? Should those women delay having children? Not have them at all?

Stephanie Caballero, Esq., the founder of The Surrogacy Law Center, has represented such clients. She works hard to educate people who may be a little too quick to judge these situations.

“If a woman wants to become a mother and being pregnant could threaten her job, is this really a vanity case? ” Caballero said. “I represented a professional ballerina who happened to be single. It’s such a short-lived career, and it would have been over if she did become pregnant.”

This is her job, and she has the right to protect her job and still have a child. I don’t think it’s anybody’s business but her own,” said Caballero, noting how a woman’s career in Hollywood can be quite short. “Most women do not have the career of Meryl Streep – she’s an anomaly. Sadly, after a woman is in her mid-thirties—or even earlier, her career is likely to change.”

Caballero shared that this pregnancy dilemma also transcends into other careers.

“It’s so hard for women in business to be pregnant, be a mother and to take care of her children and be viewed as successful and professional,” she said. “If you have the means, and for whatever reason, you cannot be pregnant because it’s going to adversely affect your career, like my client, then why shouldn’t you have a surrogate?”